Choosing A Surrogate Mother

What is surrogate pregnancy?

Artificial insemination first made surrogacy possible. A traditional surrogate is a woman who is artificially inseminated with the father’s sperm. She then carries the baby and delivers it for the parents to raise. A traditional surrogate is the baby’s biological mother.

What is the meaning of surrogate mother?

Surrogacy is when another woman carries and gives birth to a baby for the couple who want to have a child. The HFEA does not regulate surrogacy. We recommend that you should seek legal advice before proceeding with this option.

Considerations for Choosing a Surrogate Mother


Whether you are a single man or woman or a couple, you may choose to use a surrogate to help bring your dreams of parenthood to reality. When you’ve decided to choose a surrogate mother to help you start a family, there are still further options to consider, like whether you’ll use traditional or gestational surrogacy. With a gestational surrogacy, the carrier becomes pregnant by means of in vitro fertilization (IVF) using the eggs of the intended mother or an egg donor. This means that the surrogate baby is not genetically related to the carrier.

With a traditional surrogate, the surrogate’s egg is fertilized with sperm from the intended father or sperm donor through IVF or artificial insemination, making the carrier and the child genetically related. This form of surrogacy is less common than gestational surrogacy. 


Choosing a Surrogate

If you do not have any surrogate in mind, such as a friend or family member, you can contact an agency or fertility clinic who will help you find one. There are a number of important factors to consider when choosing a carrier for your surrogate baby including:

  • The surrogate’s medical history—this should include a genetic profile (traditional surrogates only), blood tests and obstetric history.
  • The surrogate’s lifestyle choices including their history of drinking and substance abuse.
  • The cost of the surrogacy process—this includes surrogacy compensation, health and life insurance, legal fees, agency fees, psychological screening and monitoring, travel costs, medical expenses, and egg donation compensation and expenses (if applicable). .
  • The legal issues—the laws on surrogacy vary from state to state, so the location of your surrogate is an important consideration.
  • What kind of relationship you wish to have with the surrogate after the child is born—you may wish the surrogate to remain an integral part of your child’s life, or have the relationship complete upon delivery.

When you are looking for a surrogate with whom you can entrust the first nine months of your baby’s life, you will want to find someone who will treat the pregnancy as if it were her own. If you do choose to find your surrogate through an agency, ask them about their screening process for surrogates, what they are like and why they do this to determine if the agency is able to provide you with the right surrogate for you. Ultimately, the key to making the right choice, is finding a surrogate that you can trust completely and with whom you can feel at ease.


Guide For Intended Parents


Your decision in selecting a Surrogate Mother is a choice that ultimately merits a meticulous thought process and long hours of reflection.

Granted some couples who desire to select a Surrogate Mother may already be acquainted personally with their Intended Mother; many couples may not know who to trust or how to get started.

Where Can I Find a Caring Surrogate Mother?

There are clinics that can assist you in locating a Surrogate Mother, which is typically the best place to begin. ACME Fertility gives you the opportunity to find the best Surrogate Mother for you.

No matter what agency you work with, you have the option of refusing any pre-selected Surrogate and choosing another. You may also elect to find a Surrogate Mother on your own. It is promising to locate both Surrogate providers and Surrogate Mothers with us or you may be referred to a specific agency by recommendations of family and friends.

During the process of choosing a Surrogate Mother, you should interact with the surrogates (if possible) before making a decision.

Finding a Surrogate Mother

Here are a few tips to consider when using a surrogate mother.

Tip 1:Legalities.

Surrogacy is controversial in the U.S., and laws on surrogacy agreements vary greatly from state to state. Some states have no laws in regard to surrogacy contracts or have declared contracts unenforceable in public policy. Many states that allow surrogacy agreements only allow uncompensated arrangements and gestational agreements (where the carrier is not biologically related to the child). Some states with surrogacy laws prohibit same-sex couples from entering into surrogacy agreements and require intended parents to be a married male/female couple.

Tip 2: Use an Agency.

Choosing surrogacy means you’ll need a help to oversee the process. An Agency can assist you with matching you with a surrogate that is right for you as well as screening and legal referrals. An agency also provides a buffer and guidance in discussing complicated issues like pregnancy termination and reduction, as well as compensation and bed rest. They will guide you through what may feel like a strange and surreal situation that is both foreign and frightening.

Tip 3. Expenses.

Speaking of financial woes, using surrogacy to have a child is not an inexpensive undertaking. You’ll be responsible for paying the medical bills of the surrogate as well as any legal costs that might arise from the pregnancy. You want to make sure you have an accurate understanding of your financial obligation prior to beginning your journey.

Tip 4. Understand what you want.

What are you looking for in a surrogate mother? You’re entrusting the first nine months of your baby’s life with your surrogate mother, so most likely you’re looking for someone who will make likeminded decisions and treat the baby with the same care as you would. If you’re choosing a traditional surrogate, you’ll want to consider genetic factors that are important to you as well.

Tip 5: Interview different surrogates.

You’re trusting your child’s life with your surrogate mother, so you need to choose one you trust with full confidence. You want your surrogate to meet all your top criteria, but you also want to choose a woman with whom you feel completely comfortable and at ease.

Tip 6: Consider lifestyle choices.

Your surrogate is using her body to grow your child, so you want to choose one who will make the right daily choices for your baby. Ask your surrogate about her diet, fitness level, nicotine habits, and lifestyle choices such as drug and alcohol consumption before and during pregnancy to make sure you’re choosing a healthy surrogate for a healthy baby.


Dr. Neelam Bhise

Scientific Director And Chief Fertility Expert


Dr. Milind Bhise

(Medical Administrator)


Mr. Pankaj

Director Patient Communications


Mr. Sandeep

Patient Coordinator

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